This post is part of a 14 ways to help rebuild self-confidence series. We are working our way through the letters of SELF CONFIDENCE with this week’s focus being on the D in Confidence. Previously covered are Self Compassion & Self Care; 10 Ways to Enjoy your Life; Learning, Love & Laughter; Finding your passion & your happy place; Clear your schedule of activities that don’t serve you; Open-Minded – The way to go and the way to grow!; Neutralise Your Inner Critic & Self-Doubter; Face Your Fears, and Imagine, Visualize and Believe.
It’s been a while since I wrote the 14 ways to help rebuild self-confidence. I had to take myself back to the head space I was in then to recall what I had in mind for this post about defining goals. As it came back to me, I was reminded that this series is just as much needed by me as anyone else out there. I go off track. I lose sight of my goals, and my self-confidence is up and down. It’s a human thing. We all do it! Regular re-evaluation of your goals is needed. How often is up to the individual. Life situation’s change. Priorities change. What you enjoy doing changes. New ideas emerge .. and so on! So now that I’ve said all that, lets get started.
A big contributor to self-confidence is feeling organized, having some clarity around our goals and objectives, enjoying what we do, and ultimately obtaining a wonderful sense of achievement. Before getting into the nitty gritty of planning, you need to look at the bigger picture first. That will then inform your more detailed planning. This post is about looking at the bigger picture goals.
What is a goal and how do I define them?
- In order to know and define your goals, you need to ask yourself some questions, like (these are just a few examples):
Where do you want to be, what do you want to be doing, and how do you want to be feeling in 12 months?
Where do you want to be, what do you want to be doing, and how do you want to be feeling in 5 years?
What gives you a sense of achievement? What motivates you?
What needs to happen to get you to where you want to be?
- A goal is an overarching principle that guides your decision making and objectives (which are the more specific steps that can be taken to meet the goal).
- Your goals need to be written down but make sure they are written in words that motivate you, not words that overwhelm you and could ultimately freeze you in your tracks!
- Set realistic goals. Be honest with yourself and be sure that your goals are attainable. You can have challenging goals but they must be achievable.
- Make your goals specific and include a timeframe.
- A couple of examples of goals might be: 1) Establish a website with a gallery of at least 50 photographs by the end of 2016, or 2) Increase followers on Instagram by 50% by the end of November 2016.
- Unless you’re a big corporation keep your goal setting and planning simple. Don’t make it complex or you will overwhelm yourself.
Why set goals?
Setting goals gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation. It provides you with some clarity and helps you to focus and organize your time and resources so that you can make the very most of your day to day life. Reaching for goals is an important part of strengthening self-confidence. It helps shape and update how you define yourself while at the same time helping you add to your sense of accomplishment.
And because I’m rather fond of a good quote, here’s some awesome quotes about goal setting!
Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible ~ Tony Robbins
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals ~ Henry David Thoreau
Happy goal setting!
Ciao for now,
Linking up with Kylie Purtell for #IBOT
I love lists and plans but sometimes struggle with goal-setting. I sometimes struggle to identify what it is I want to achieve; although if I’m accountable to some external source I’m usually better!
I know what you mean Deb! I get very conflicted between my photography and my blog. My blog has won out lately and my photography has suffered as a result. I’m good too when accountable to an external source!
I struggled with goal setting for years. I kept thinking “i should have GOALS, I should be doing all the GOAL things” and then I realised… nah, not for me. What I’ve been focusing on instead are values that I want to live with and ways to bring those values to life. Which, of course, are probably goals and I’m kidding myself, but hey, whatever gets us there, right!?!? x
Totally agree! Whatever works and gets us there! I guess for me it’s about having some order. I like a bit order – even in my mind. If I sort through my thoughts and write down a few goals, it helps me to focus better. 🙂
Yeah, I am TERRIBLE at this because I am SO bloody flakey. I guess I’m good at owning that flakiness though. Surely that counts for something?
Your flakey is obviously working for you girlfriend!! 😉
I’ve never been a goal oriented person. But I can’t say if it’s because I’m truly content plodding or self-sabotage. I’ve just taken myself out of the race so to speak. If I don’t even try I can’t fail, right? Food for thought. Great series by the way.
I totally get what you’re saying Ness – I’ve been there! I’m back at a point now though that I feel like I need a bit of order and direction and sorting through my muddled brain and coming up with some goals seems to help me with that! Thanks so much for the compliment on the series! 🙂
Reading this was very timely, Min. With Miss M turning 10 weeks, I feel like my entire world is a mushed up mess and I don’t know whether I’m Arthur or Martha. I feel as though I’ve lost sight of what i’m here to do and I know I’m here to be more than just a Mum, I have a business and a blog. I’ve been meaning to set some goals but it’s just never happened. I think this is a sign.
I’m so glad this post is timely for you Eva. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself though – you’ve got a new little bub and that is bloody hard work! I hope though that if you set yourself some goals it will help make you feel a little more organised, focussed and better about things! xo
I love that Tony Robbins quote but my problem is I just don’t know what my goals are, when I ask myself those questions, I don’t have any answers. Perhaps if I was more decisive, I’d be better at goal setting and then goal getting!
I don’t really know what my goals are at the moment either! Writing this post was timely for me actually because setting a few goals is exactly what I need to do in order to untangle the muddle that is in my mind at the moment. The confusion between doing more with my photography and putting more effort into this blog. Different strokes for different folks I say – not everything works for everyone! Enjoy the rest of your holiday Sammie – I’m loving the photos and posts! 🙂 xo
I used to be a big goal setter, but now I internalise them more than write them down. I also think it’s important to have stepping stone goals – mini-goals to reach along the way to the big ones. That works for me.
I’ve never been a big goal setter! lol I like some order to help me focus and feel organised but I also like to keep it very simple or otherwise I will avoid, avoid, avoid. I think as long as you find something that works for you, that’s awesome! 🙂
This post couldn’t have come at a better time! I’m about to embark on a weight loss and health kick journey and am sitting down this weekend to revise my goals. I used to be very goal oriented but have become more relaxed in recent years.
I’m so glad this post is timely for you Ashleigh! All the very best of luck to you for your weight loss and health kick journey (I’m on one of those ALL the time LOL). I’m sure you’ll be kicking those goals in no time! 🙂 x
Great post, Min. I really need to do some goal-setting. I’ve been pretty aimless this year, with no goals or anything to guide me, and my self-confidence has suffered because of it. I’m hoping to be accepted in to the 2017 AIPP Mentoring program which will hopefully help me set and start working towards some business goals, but I think I need to get started on it even before then, for both business and personal.
Thanks Kylie – I completely understand where you are right now. At the moment I feel bad because I have neglected my photography in favour of the blog. I find it hard to focus on both. OMG – just did a quick Google of the 2017 AIPP Mentoring Program and it looks incredible. Good luck with that. I hope you are accepted! 🙂 xo