This post is part of a 14 ways to help rebuild self-confidence series. We are working our way through the letters of SELF CONFIDENCE with this week’s focus being on the first E in Confidence. Previously covered are Self Compassion & Self Care; 10 Ways to Enjoy your Life; Learning, Love & Laughter; Finding your passion & your happy place; Clear your schedule of activities that don’t serve you; Open-Minded – The way to go and the way to grow!; Neutralise Your Inner Critic & Self-Doubter; Face Your Fears, Imagine, Visualize and Believe, and Define your goals.
It was gratitude that saved me back in 2012 when life as I knew it changed (there’s a bit about that on my ‘About’ page). I had been on a treadmill, in survival mode, not living. I was disconnected from life. Gratitude helped me to reconnect.
A friend drew my attention to an article about Hailey Bartholomew and her 365 Grateful Project. After reading the article, I felt inspired to do my own 365 Grateful Project. I took a photo each day of something I was grateful for. I even created my first blog (not this one) where I posted them. At first it was hard to find something I was grateful for each day. I was not used to thinking that way, nor was I in the habit of being present and noticing things around me. I started to become much more observant, keeping an eye out all day for my ‘grateful’. Soon it became habit. I started to notice things in each day I was grateful for. I began to see again. I had reconnected.
Once upon a time I might have rolled my eyes at talk of ‘gratitude’, thinking it was all airy fairy nonsense. That is not the case at all – trust me. Sometimes as humans we need to get back to basics in order to be properly grounded and to refresh our priorities and perspective. As you get older you soon realise that material possessions, whilst lovely, are not what is important in life. What is important is family, friends, health, and appreciation for the beauty of nature and the world around us.
So what has gratitude got to do with self-confidence?
When you have gratitude, you feel much better about yourself. Being thankful for all the good things helps you to focus on the positives and that puts you in a better frame of mind. It helps with your self-esteem, happiness and overall well-being.
Heartfelt gratitude is a much deeper feeling than ‘forced gratitude’ (e.g. at least I have some food on the table). It is a feeling of appreciation and connection with life itself, which when present, triggers positive feedback loops. This is the secret habit that high self-confidence people rely on to get access to this amazing positive mental attitude that they have.
So, to improve your self-confidence start the habit of being grateful. Look for something in each day that you are grateful for. You could photograph it, journal it, or just take a mental snapshot of it. You could spend a few moments each day acknowledging the small things you like about yourself. Start forming a habit which will benefit you for life.
I’ve written about Gratitude before here at WOTM. You might be interested to also read Gratitude & Generosity – about the eighth and ninth attitudes of Mindfulness; and Living with Gratitude – a little about my story with adopting an attitude of gratitude.
And we all know I love a good quote or two, so here are some about Gratitude that I think are lovely.
The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become. ~ Robert Holden
When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in. ~ Kristin Armstrong
Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul. ~ Henry Ward Beecher
Ciao for now,
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