This post is part of a 14 ways to help rebuild self-confidence series. We are working our way through the letters of SELF CONFIDENCE with this week’s focus being on the F in Confidence. Previously covered are Self Compassion & Self Care, 10 Ways to Enjoy your Life, Learning, Love & Laughter, Finding your passion & your happy place, Clear your schedule of activities that don’t serve you, Open-Minded – The way to go and the way to grow!, and Neutralise Your Inner Critic & Self-Doubter.
If we let fear control us, we are not free to be the best version of ourselves. If we don’t feel free we can’t feel confident. If we want to feel confident, we need to conquer our fears.
There’s a couple of quotes that really resonate with me. This one (by Doe Zantamata):
“Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen.”
If we let it, fear will paralyse us! We could have great ideas that never progress, great potential that never gets realised, so many goals that never get achieved – all because we let fear control us.
And then there is this quote said by Darren Rowse at the Problogger Event last year:
“Courage is not a feeling you wait for before you take action. Courage is DOING it scared.”
It’s true. You can’t wait until you feel like a big courageous lion before you move forward with whatever it is that you are fearful about, because you could be waiting a long, long time! You have to accept being scared and having fears and do it anyway.
So how can we accept our fears? What might be a way to help manage them?
- The first thing to realise is that you are not alone. Everyone has fears. Everyone! The difference is that some people are willing to work through their fears in order to get where they want to be and others let their fears control and paralyse them.
- The process of facing fears is called EXPOSURE. Exposure is pushing on and bit by bit easing yourself into that space that you fear, until your anxieties lessen. Lean into your fear!
- Write it all down. Make a list of your fears. Name them and list what are those dreadful things you think MIGHT happen. Then list all those wonderful things that COULD happen. How much do want those wonderful things and how likely are those dreadful things going to happen huh?
- Believe in yourself. We are our own worst critics. You deserve success and good fortune just as much as anyone else.
Fear and self-doubt go hand in hand, so you might also be interested to read this post.
So what is fear stopping you from doing?
Ciao for now,
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