Grandma Betty and her Chocolate Pudding Recipe

November 3, 2015
baking, grandma,

baking, grandma,

I was 19 when I met you, so you’ve been a part of my life for 32 years and my mother-in-law for 30 years and 9 months.  You were in the kitchen baking with an apron on of course.  You were quite a bit older than my mother and I thought you looked like a quintessential grandma.  I was right.  You welcomed me warmly and immediately offered tea, coffee and delicious baked goods.

I used to love your breakfasts of bacon, eggs and tomato, your apple turnovers, your traditional roast dinners with Yorkshire pudding, the hearty soups bubbling away in your slow cooker, and of course – your famous chocolate pudding (recipe shared below)!  I had never heard of kumquat until I tasted your delicious kumquat jam, and of course there was your strawberry jam, raspberry jam, marmalade and many more jam variations.  It was always a treat to visit your kitchen!

You always kept yourself busy – baking, cooking, knitting, ceramics.  We have bags and bags of Christmas decorations made by your hands –  knitted Santa’s, quilted snow homes, snow men, fabric elves, Xmas trees and caroling mice.  Ceramics of Mr & Mrs Claus and more.  Our wardrobes are full of your knitted coat hangers that we love so much. 

christmas decorations, christmas trees

Betty’s Hand Sewn Christmas Tree Decorations – this photo was Day 90 of my 2012/13 365 Grateful Project

coat hanger, coathanger, knitted coathangers

Grandma Betty’s knitted coat hangers – this photo was Day 347 of my 2012/13 365 Grateful Project.

There was many a time over the years when I was working full time that I would drop a sick child off to spend the day with you.  I knew they would be well cared for, fed well and given plenty of fluids.  You never hesitated – always welcoming a day spent looking after a sick child when I could not get time off from work.

You gave much of your time to community work – scope, meals on wheels, girl guides, the local tennis club that your husband and boys were very active in .. and more.  You would cook up a storm and get your craft on for events or fund-raisers.  If you got wind of someone expecting a baby, you were on to it, gathering a basket full of baby goods for the big day – knitted baby coat hangers (including your well known bananas in pyjamas coathangers), knitted baby cardigans, booties etc.

You raised five (5) children!  Order of birth: Girl, Boy, Boy, Boy (the tennis player), Girl.  The fifth child was a surprise, with you giving birth to her at the age of 47 and your previous child (the tennis player) being 12 years of age at the time.  You have 13 grandchildren (7 girls, 6 boys) and so far 4 great-grandchildren (3 girls, 1 boy).

I remember when ‘the tennis player and I were engaged’ you began buying something extra every time you grocery shopped.  When we were married and moved into our first rented unit, you presented us with a laundry basket full to overflowing with essential items that were so very much appreciated!

You are everywhere in our home – your china cabinet, your silverware, the Christmas decorations, photographs, knitted coathangers and in the faces of your son and grandchildren. 

china cabinet

Betty’s China Cabinet now in our home – this photo was Day 46 of my 2012/13 365 Grateful Project.

On New Year’s Eve you would have turned 91.  You outlived your husband Alan by 16 years and 9 months.  We will still celebrate  your 91st birthday on that day and clink glasses and say cheers to Betty!  The last few years have not been easy for you and it eases our grief to know that you are now free and at peace.  Rest in peace Betty.  We will miss you!

Vale Betty – 31 December 1924 to 27 October 2015

Grandma Betty's Chocolate Pudding
Serves 4
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Prep Time
10 min
Cook Time
40 min
Total Time
50 min
Prep Time
10 min
Cook Time
40 min
Total Time
50 min
  1. 2 oz (about 3 tblsps) of soft butter
  2. 1/2 cup castor sugar
  3. 1 egg
  4. 1 cup self-raising flour
  5. 2 dessertspoons cocoa
  6. 1/2 cup milk
  7. Vanilla
  8. Extra 1/2 cup castor sugar
  9. Extra 2 dessertspoons cocoa
  10. 1 1/2 cup hot water (boiling)
  1. Cream butter with sugar and vanilla until light and fluffy.
  2. Add egg, beat well.
  3. Fold in sifted flour and cocoa alternatively with milk.
  4. Place mixture into greased ovenproof dish.
  5. Sprinkle with extra sugar and cocoa mixed together.
  6. Finally, very carefully pour hot water over, very gently.
  7. Bake in a moderate (170 degrees celcius) oven 35-40 minutes.
  1. Serves 4-6 depending on serving size!
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  • Reply Maxabella November 3, 2015 at 8:46 am

    I wish there were more Bettys in the world. I worry that we are leaving them out so they won’t stay. Thanks for the recipe! x

    • Reply Min November 3, 2015 at 10:15 am

      I wish there were more Betty’s too. We need them. They are special! xo

  • Reply PatrickC November 3, 2015 at 9:14 am

    Min, You should print this and when you send out thanks to those attended Bettys funeral and paid their respects include it in the envelope as it is a touching heartfelt tribute.

    • Reply Min November 3, 2015 at 10:16 am

      Thanks Patrick. Betty’s send off is on Friday and believe it or not I’ve been allocated the task of sending out the thank you notes to those who attend!

  • Reply Kathy November 3, 2015 at 9:41 am

    What a beautiful tribute to your mother-in-law Min. She sounds like such a woman of substance and care. She certainly lives on in your life and glad you can spread her recipe far and wide.

    • Reply Min November 3, 2015 at 10:17 am

      Thanks Kathy. She always kept herself busy and was such a charitable woman. We’re really going to miss her. Her chocolate pudding was much loved within the extended family πŸ™‚

  • Reply HUgzilla November 3, 2015 at 2:18 pm

    What a beautiful post, Min. You’ve lovingly captured her essence and no doubt she’d be chuffed to know that her daughter-in-law holds her in such high regard x

    • Reply Min November 4, 2015 at 8:43 am

      Thanks so much Zilla! πŸ™‚ x

  • Reply Malinda @mybrownpaperpackages November 3, 2015 at 7:08 pm

    This is a beautiful tribute Min and reminds me of my grandparents quite a lot. I have a few of those coat hangers too – they are the best ones! #TeamIBOT

    • Reply Min November 4, 2015 at 8:44 am

      Thanks Malinda. Those coat hangers are the best aren’t they?! πŸ™‚ x

  • Reply Robyn November 3, 2015 at 7:41 pm

    Aw Happy Birthday Grandma Betty!! She would have loved this :))

    • Reply Min November 4, 2015 at 8:44 am

      Thank you Robyn! πŸ™‚ xo

  • Reply EssentiallyJess November 3, 2015 at 9:11 pm

    I’m sorry for your loss Min. What a wonderful lady Betty was. How blessed you are to have known her. Big hugs for you my friend. xx

    • Reply Min November 4, 2015 at 8:45 am

      Many thanks to you Jess! πŸ™‚ xo

  • Reply Jane @ Modern Housewives July 20, 2018 at 5:53 pm

    This is so sad and touching, I’m so sorry for your loss πŸ™ I remember my grandma, she was also an amazing, strong woman, who knew how to cook and how to fix a car. She was my superhero.
    And the chocolate pudding is amazing, we tried the recipe with my daughter yesterday, it didn’t look as good as in your picture, but the taste was heavenly.

    • Reply Min July 26, 2018 at 8:03 am

      Hi Jane – I’m so glad you enjoyed the chocolate pudding! xo

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