Learning, Love & Laughter

October 16, 2015

love, laughter, learning, self confidence

Learning, Love and Laughter are all essential parts of life that feed our hearts and souls, make us happy, contribute to our sense of well-being and of course our self-confidence.

Let me explain my thoughts on how …

LEARNING

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I believe that as humans we are always learning. We never stop! There are lessons in everything that happens in our life. We just need to look out for them, be aware of them, understand them, and thoughtfully apply them in the future. This quote is one that I came across recently, which provides a few examples of where we can find lessons in things that might happen to us during our day-to-day lives.

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I also believe in actively seeking learning opportunities, particularly for an activity or subject that is something we are interested in or have a passion in.

How does learning help build self-confidence?

Well, if you find stuff you’re interested in and passionate about, then it’s highly likely it will be something that you’re good at. Recognising what you’re good at and trying to build on those things can be a really useful way of building confidence in your own abilities. If you learn more about your interest and/or passion, then your confidence in your abilities will grow and strengthen. You are also likely to be in contact with like-minded people who will validate your strengths and abilities as well as provide valuable social interaction and further learning opportunities.

As for the day to day learnings, each of them make us wiser, stronger and more resilient!  That can only be a good thing when it comes to self-confidence! 🙂

LOVE

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There are many aspects to the concept of love that will help with our self-confidence.

1. Self-Love.  Self Love is important for self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to a person’s beliefs about their own worth and value. It also has to do with the feelings people experience that follow from their sense of worthiness or unworthiness. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people’s choices and decisions.

Start to self-love by:

  • Recognising and stopping any negative thinking and replace it with positive affirmations. (eg replace “I’m never going to succeed. I’m useless” with “I will succeed because I am worthy and have much to offer”)
  • Know that it really doesn’t matter what other people think of you. It is far more important what you think of you.
  • Visualize your confident self and start acting that way
  • List your strengths and be proud of them. Take the focus away from what you consider to be your weaknesses.

2. In-Love.  If you’re fortunate enough to be ‘In Love’ then you have many positive things going your way. Being in love means you have a partner who loves you and thinks you are the bees knees. You will be hearing positive things about yourself often and will also have the joy of making the one you love happy. You will be flooded with feel good endorphins. Your body will be releasing euphoria-inducing chemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, adrenaline and vasopressin. These not only feel great – giving you butterflies and a fluttering heart – but they are great for stress relief. Being in love is a little addictive though, so be mindful and careful to not lose yourself in it – but enjoy! 🙂

3. Family Love (spouse, family & good friends).  If everything is as it should be, this kind of love is unconditional, stable and consistent love and support that is always there. These people accept you as you are, flaws and all. They love you no matter what.  They are your ever-present safety net.

So how does Love help Self-Confidence?

Well it goes without saying that having people around you who love you, believe in you, and support you, will strengthen your self-confidence. I believe in keeping those who lift you up close and those that bring you down far away.

LAUGHTER

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There are many, many benefits to laughter. Here are just a few: Laughter helps build resilience – helping us to manage and focus better when times are tough. Laughter is contagious so it not only lifts our spirits but those of people around us.  Laughter decreases stress and triggers the release of endorphins – the body’s natural feel-good chemicals. These chemicals boost the immune responses and very importantly – endorphins create a positive state of mind and boost optimism, self-confidence and feelings of self-worth.

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I hope that you have plenty of Learning, Love and Laughter in your life!

This post is part of a 14 ways to help rebuild self-confidence series.  We are working our way through the letters of SELF CONFIDENCE – this week’s focus being on the L. Previously we have covered Self Compassion & Self Care and 10 Ways to Enjoy your Life. The next post topic in the series will be:  Find your passion & your happy place/s.

Ciao for now,

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18 Comments

  • Reply Natalie @ our parallel connection October 16, 2015 at 9:14 am

    Very appropriate post for me lately – self love. It has taken years to get to the stage that I can finally say that I do love myself and that I am a good person. There is nothing better to spread the happy endorphins than a big fat giggle.

    • Reply Min October 16, 2015 at 9:01 pm

      Self-love is something I’ve gotten better at but couldn’t say I’ve completely mastered. It’s so important though and I’m glad that I at least am aware of that. It’s fantastic to hear that you’re doing well with it Natalie and you’re right – a good laugh and giggle is fantastic to bring forth all the happy endorphins! 🙂

  • Reply Kathy October 16, 2015 at 9:35 am

    Love is a drug and so is laughter – all the good chemicals. And learning keeps us young and interesting. x

    • Reply Min October 16, 2015 at 9:02 pm

      So true Kathy – feel good chemicals are indeed like drugs (but good ones) – wish they could be bottled! As for learning – yes it does keep us young and interesting and keeps that brain active and alert. I love learning! 🙂

  • Reply Denyse October 16, 2015 at 5:23 pm

    What a thoughtful & lovely post. Thank you Min, lots to think about and reflect. Denyse

    • Reply Min October 16, 2015 at 9:03 pm

      What a lovely thing to say. Thanks so much Denyse! 🙂 x

  • Reply PatrickC October 16, 2015 at 8:20 pm

    Min you are so right about love.

    All the loves. Being in love is a salvation for us. Loving and loving someone brings calm and brings strength and brings peace.

    When you are in a loving relationship the support from and for your love enables you to be and do anything.

    Your post was really thoughtful and spot on in sentiment.

    • Reply Min October 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Very true Patrick. Love provides a safe haven. Everyone needs a safe haven! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! 🙂

  • Reply Kirsty @ My Home Truths October 16, 2015 at 8:42 pm

    I love this post Min and the concept of your self confidence series – off to catch up with your earlier posts!

    • Reply Min October 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

      Thank you Kirsty! I hope you enjoy the earlier posts 🙂 x

  • Reply Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life October 16, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    Self-love and more importantly, self-compassion is something I’m trying hard to work on. Totally agree that love, laughter and learning are all important. Great series Min…I think I missed your first two posts so have to go back and read them.

    • Reply Min October 17, 2015 at 9:58 am

      Hope you enjoy the series Sanch! 🙂 x

  • Reply Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers October 17, 2015 at 7:42 am

    What a great series. I’m going to get my little girl to practice positive affirmations and as a family we are going to do a lot more laughing I think. x

    • Reply Min October 17, 2015 at 10:00 am

      Thanks Vicki! Enjoy all that laughing 🙂 xo

  • Reply Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid October 18, 2015 at 6:43 am

    What a great series, Min. This post reminds me of the old adage “live well, laugh often, love much.” I love love and laughing too, and as for learning, in the words of BB King “the beautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take it away from you.” That kind of sums it up for me x

    • Reply Min October 19, 2015 at 10:06 am

      Thanks Sammie! Yes – “live well, laugh often, love much” is spot on – love it! Love everything about your comment including the quote from BB King 🙂 xo

  • Reply Grace October 21, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    Since becoming a mum, I am a firm believer in self-love. Even if it’s just 15 minutes soaking in a bathtub. We all need some time for a little self-pampering.

    • Reply Min October 21, 2015 at 9:18 pm

      That’s for sure Grace! I have to admit to loving a bit of pampering. Give me a spa pedicure with a massage chair and I’m one happy girl! 🙂 xo

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