Missing Mojo

March 12, 2020

MISSING MOJO ALERT! 

It happens to us all now and then and it’s my turn now.  Yes – my mojo is missing!

What’s that mean?

Well, I’m feeling a bit flat.  I’m overwhelmed with all my ‘to-do’s’.  You know that feeling – it’s all a whir, you can’t focus, you walk around in circles achieving nothing, and you know you need to walk away and come back when you’re fresher.  I’m uninspired and unmotivated.  I’ve run out of steam.  I need a change of scenery.  I need some digital detox time.  I need a break.  I need a holiday!

I haven’t had a proper holiday in a long time.  By proper I mean longer than a few nights and relaxing (not constant travelling about and touristing or sitting in all day conferences).  2019 was a great year for short trips away though and I’m so grateful for all those trips – I loved each and every one of them!  Last getaway was 4 nights in Cairns in September 2019, before that I’d had 5 nights at Stradbroke Island (with my sister and her children) and before that 2 nights in Sydney (blog related) and 2 nights in Melbourne (to see Harry Potter and the Cursed Child with my daughter).

I must also acknowledge the need to give myself a break – from negative self talk and being disappointed in myself for not achieving or being more than I am – because I am in the midst of huge hormonal change.  You name a symptom, I have it + some!   I feel that society in general underestimates exactly how tough this period of life can be for a woman.  There’s lots of positives about this stage of life but no sugar coating from me – perimenopause/menopause is not one of them – for me anyway – because I always tend to get worse case scenarios!  It’s been and continues to be tough!

Then there’s all the trauma that 2020 has dished up thus far.  This post and this post explain though I’m sure you know what I’m referring to.  Add in all the ups, downs and demands of life (including illness) and give it all a little stir and yes – I need a nice quiet relaxing holiday!

Please forgive me if I haven’t replied to your email or liked or commented on your posts or linked up to a linky etc.  It’s not intentional.  I’m just really struggling to keep up with everything at the moment.

I have booked 6 nights away at Kingscliff at the end of March/early April.  It’s not a super long holiday but it’s a good chunk of time in a place that will soothe and relax me.  I can’t wait!  I made a point of making the booking outside of school holidays – for obvious reasons.  Thanks to everyone who provided suggestions for a beach getaway location for me in response to this post.  They were all fantastic suggestions, but at this time (with the virus threat etc) I need to avoid air travel and decided to revisit Kingscliff in northern NSW where I haven’t been in multiple decades!  It’s changed a lot since I was last there and I have wanted to see my old friend again for some time.  It’s the perfect location for what I am needing right now – so Kingscliff it is.   

I look forward to long walks along the beach, lying about reading books, swims in the pool and at the beach, strolling and poking around the local shops and galleries, not cooking, and rediscovering Kingscliff and surrounding areas. I also might even get to meet up with bloggy friend, Kathy of 50 Shades of Age for the first time in real life, as this is where she lives.

I will have taken my latest foster kittens back, for desex and adoption, about a week prior and my heart will be hurting and I’ll be missing them dreadfully. This little getaway will be well timed and very helpful for this reason also.

I’ll post some pics on Instagram while I’m away and they’ll feed through to my Facebook and Twitter pages, but that is the only screen/social media I will do while I’m away.

In the meantime, before I go away, I am going to play it by ear.  I may or may not post again before I go.  I don’t know at this stage, but I’ll do whatever feels right for me.  I know that I need to lighten my load for now.  I often wonder why I put so much pressure on myself.  It’s not like I make money from blogging or that anyone would even really notice if I didn’t post one week.  But then in reality, I do know why I put pressure on myself.  I’m a perfectionist and I like to be consistent, dependable and loyal.  I don’t want to be lacklustre, inconsistent, unreliable etc.  On this occasion though, I’m taking the pressure off myself and what will be, will be!

Once again I must make reference to a favourite quote by John Burroughs that explains me so well:

I go to nature to be soothed and healed and to have my senses put in order.

And so it’s off to a beautiful place abounding in nature that I’ll go and I’m hopeful that I’ll find my mojo by the end of my stay, and if not, I’ll at least be a lot closer to finding it again!

What do you do when you lose your mojo and need some time out from day to day life when it all becomes a bit too much?

Ciao for now,

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14 Comments

  • Reply Natalie March 12, 2020 at 9:53 am

    Be kind to yourself, Min, and enjoy your holiday. Blogging can wait. You’ll find your mojo again. #lovin’lifelinky

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:27 am

      Thanks Natalie! xo

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au March 12, 2020 at 11:22 am

    Hi Min – I think we all have our flat periods where our Mojo takes a little holiday, but yours seems to be a bit more full on this time. It’s definitely a good time for a break and some refreshment (your holiday sounds perfect and I’m a little envious). I think we can take ourselves and our blogs a little too seriously at times and the world’s not going to end if we don’t blog for a few weeks. People come and go and return again all the time – and we’ll be happy to see you back when you’re feeling well and happy and up to speed again. Enjoy every moment of that lovely holiday – and say Hi to Kathy from me. xx

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:30 am

      Hi Leanne – you’re right, we can take ourselves and our blogs too seriously a lot of the time! And yes my mojo loss is full on this time. It’s all the catastrophes that have flattened me. This coronavirus is just too much. It’s like living in a highly anxiety inducing movie. Hoping that I’ll be well and can enjoy the holiday away. xo

  • Reply Joanne Tracey March 12, 2020 at 12:26 pm

    That sounds perfect. My hubby & I are looking at doing a long weekend there for our wedding anniversary in early May. As you know I have quite a bit on at present but am looking forward to a long weekend in Queenstown with my daughter in just under 2 weeks. Fingers crossed that we get there!

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:32 am

      It would be a perfect place to go and celebrate your wedding anniversary Jo. Not sure about how things will be for you to get to Queenstown. I guess it’s a matter of see what happens day to day. What a terrible state of affairs the world is in right now. Take care of yourselves. xo

  • Reply Sydney Shop Girl March 12, 2020 at 2:02 pm

    Min

    Enjoy your break and I do agree with your quote from John Burroughs – nature gives all our senses so much, especially when we’re drained.

    Wishing you restoration and renewal!

    SSG xxx

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:32 am

      Thanks so much SSG xoxo

  • Reply Deborah March 12, 2020 at 4:39 pm

    I feel a bit the same. I went to a writing festival for a few days last October, stayed at my brother’s for a few days in Brissy sometime earlier that year.

    It’s hard for me to justify a holiday though as I don’t work and I’m not sure where I’d go or could afford to go!!!

    Of course, virus-wise, it’s probably better to holiday in Aus at the moment. I’m glad you’ve got something planned!

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:33 am

      I don’t earn a regular income anymore either Deb – hence the lack of much travel for me – just domestic stuff mainly. I wouldn’t want to go O/S right now anyway. Fingers crossed that I’m well and able to get away and enjoy my little beach holiday. xo

  • Reply suzanne vosbikian March 13, 2020 at 10:23 pm

    Min, thanks for sharing your reality so candidly. At 65 I am well past the throws of menopause, but I do remember its hellish effects on my mind and body. It is a cruel and heartless time, but your mind will clear and your body will return. Be kind to yourself, and plot a course for creating your new normal. Your path may not be covered with roses, (there will always be ups and downs) but at least you won’t be walking on thorns all the time. Wishing you the very best.

    • Reply Min March 14, 2020 at 8:35 am

      Hi Suzanne – thanks for your understanding re the menopause stuff. I’m not having a good time of it at all. So many women seem to breeze through it and don’t quite understand how it can be hell for others. Looking forward to my little getaway. It will be so replenishing and so very needed right now. Take care of yourself! xo

  • Reply Leslie Susan Clingan March 20, 2020 at 2:43 am

    Please come make a spring bucket list post with me!! It can be as all encompassing or simple as you like but it can help all of us to share ideas for staying sane, having fun, enjoying life during these difficult days. Your list might be just what I need to inspire me to get through.

    Glad for your getaway. But have to laugh!! We went on a weekend getaway to spring training baseball games in Arizona and just learned that one of the employees at the baseball stadium has been confirmed positive with corona. Ha!! Oh, well. Have to laugh to keep from crying.

    I’ve been away from home caring for my hospitalized mom. She is now in rehab and we are moving her into a nursing home. She is going to be so upset. But we have to do it out of love for her. I would give my first born son – I have daughters – for a week on the beach. So enjoy your excursion!!

    Big hugs to you.

    • Reply Min March 31, 2020 at 5:08 pm

      Hi Leslie – I will try and visit and see about making a spring bucket list with you when I can. I’ve not been keeping up with all things ‘blog’ lately. We had to cancel our beach holiday. When this is all over we will book again. I hope that your Mom will be ok and accept that you’re doing what is best for her. Big hugs to you. We all need hugs right now don’t we? xo

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