January 19, 2016

pain, poem, poetry, emotional pain

Some things have occurred recently – here, there and everywhere – that have brought home to me just how much ‘emotional PAIN’ is a part of our lives, no matter how much we would like to avoid it, at some point it’s going to find you and most likely many more times than once!

It’s been a sad start to 2016 in many respects. In the news, there’s been the passing away of David Bowie, Alan Rickman, and Natalie Cole. Celine Dion has lost her husband and days later her brother. Of course, aside from the celebrity tragedies that we hear of, there are millions of ordinary people like you and me that suffer losses and PAIN every day – some we see on the news but the majority we don’t hear about. I know of several friends and acquaintances who have their own personal battles and subsequent PAIN, and I too have had my own struggles and my own PAIN.

All these things prompted me to put fingers to keyboard (the romantic in me SO wishes I could say ‘pen to paper’ but sadly not the case) and write a bit of a poem.

I am no great writer or poet, however, my motivation apart from the need to let these words in my head out is the hope that these thrown together words might encourage or inspire anyone who is in emotional PAIN right now to find the warrior within and fight the bastard off. Easier said than done in many instances, trust me I know, but our lives are far too short to let PAIN win and if let rule, PAIN can take us to places we just don’t want to go.



Pain comes after injury
And not always the kind that you can see
It can be emotional, the hardest kind
The torture within our human mind

Emotional pain manifests as physical
Our heart and soul bound by a manacle
Heaviness descends through our chest cavity
and oozes into the cracks of our bones where nobody can see

It’s hard to wake, it’s hard to sleep
All you can do is breathe and weep
The day-to-day is hard to do
You move as if you’re stuck in goo

Like many things it’s a sliding scale
It comes in waves and will prevail
From mild to moderate to a severe blinding ache
It cracks you open like an earthquake

Knife stabs can pierce you at any time
You hear a keening like a chime
and realize hang on that sound comes from me
It’s the pain coming out for all to see

Brokenhearted, betrayal, someone hurt your feelings
Shame, embarrassment, regrets and bad dealings
Depression, anxiety and incessant worry
Err of judgment, mistakes made when in a hurry
Used or abused, taken for granted
Even worse if someone you loved had a hand in it
Illness and hardships
Doctors, drugs and hospital trips
And the ultimate pain, the loss of one we loved
All injuries … and into the pain pit we’re shoved

It’s tentacles can spread far and wide
It’s determined to show you that you can’t hide
From the rawness and brawn’ness and the power it can wield
It’s the king of the castle, bring out your shield

Pain, it can drive you insane
What if’s, why’s, and when’s, over and over, again and again
Pain, it can make you demented and mad
Making you question every surety and certainty that you’ve ever had

Pain needs to understand who is boss
None of us need to feel any more loss
than we already have so I’ve got to say
Listen up, I’ll try and show you the way

Well pain you listen here to me
There are some things you need to hear and see
You may be King but I am fucking Queen
And being puppet to your powers will never be seen

I raise my shield and I look you in the eye
Come get me you bastard, don’t be shy
I’ll fight you and hunt you like a hound
No-one trespasses on my sacred ground

I am woman and I am strong
The power you think you have, well you’ve got it all wrong
Something hurt me, I accept that to be true
But it won’t define me, I will build me anew

You can linger in the background and sometimes reappear
But you will never consume me, let me make that clear
Look in my eyes pain and then I dare you to come near
Didn’t think so.  Do piss off now.  That’s it, be a dear.


I’ve included this music video by R.E.M. – ‘Everybody Hurts’, as it seems so appropriate.

Ciao for now,


Linking up with Essentially Jess for #IBOT
and with Agent Mystery Case for #WorthCasingWednesday

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  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit January 19, 2016 at 6:28 am

    Well done Min. That’s clever.
    I am loving your new profile pic as well. Gorgeous!

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 10:47 am

      Thanks Leanne. Yes, thought it was time to update my pic. The old one was taken many years ago! This one is current. 🙂 xo

  • Reply Amy @ Handbagmafia January 19, 2016 at 7:04 am

    Yes- pain is all too present these days- not only celebs but the suffering in the world is enormous. Great post.

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 10:48 am

      So much pain everywhere. We need to be resilient! xo

  • Reply Nikki@Wonderfully Women January 19, 2016 at 7:21 am

    That is awesome! Bring on the bliss. xx N

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 10:48 am

      Thanks Nikki. Yes I could do with some bliss! xo

  • Reply Nicole @ The Builders Wife January 19, 2016 at 8:43 am

    Just beautiful Min, I love it. Pain is everywhere, such an important emotion to feel, though one that I do not enjoy. Thank you for sharing xx

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 10:50 am

      Thank you Nicole. I don’t enjoy it either I gotta say! 😉 xo

  • Reply Renee Wilson January 19, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    Great words, Min. I love your choice of words – so descriptive and meaningful. I love the strong ending too. I hope your pain doesn’t last too much longer and things get easier for you soon x

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      Thanks so much Renee. I’m all for a strong ending too! lol xo

  • Reply Emily January 19, 2016 at 2:04 pm

    Beautiful. Love the ending. Take that, pain. #teamIBOT

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 2:55 pm

      Thank you Em! Yeah … take that pain!! 😉 xo

  • Reply Lyndall @ Seize The Day Project January 19, 2016 at 2:15 pm

    Hey Min, I love your poem, especially the last line! We all experience and endure pain throughout our lives, and it’s something we can’t ignore. How you handle the pain can define who you become.

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 2:57 pm

      Thanks Lyndall! Yes – if we’re to live then we are to experience pain (as well as joy). It can be tough but you can’t let it beat you. xo

  • Reply Kirsty @ My Home Truths January 19, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    I love it. Pain is a part of life but it doesn’t have to consume us. Glad you are standing up to it and telling it to piss off!

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 9:25 pm

      Thanks Kirsty! 🙂 xo

  • Reply EssentiallyJess January 19, 2016 at 7:29 pm

    Loved the ending.
    It has been a tragic start to the year. Just weeks after FB was filled with all the ‘it’s going to be the best year yet’ cries.
    I haven’t had much time to mourn celebrities who I didn’t know when there are things that have happened closer to home. What some people I know are going through is just horrific.

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 9:28 pm

      Thanks – gotta have a good strong ending Jess! Sure has been a tragic start to the year. It’s got to get better – right? Speaking of celebrities – Glen Frey (The Eagles) only 67 another one gone. Truly though it is the tragedies I see on the news that upset me more (they are too horrific to speak of) and like you – there are people I know going through dreadful times. It sure helps put things in perspective. xo

  • Reply Tegan January 19, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    Your poem captured the impact of pain perfectly. Pain really can make you feel like it is never ending when you are stuck in the midst of it all.

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 9:29 pm

      Thanks Tegan – that means a lot! 🙂 xo

  • Reply Kathy January 19, 2016 at 8:42 pm

    What a great poem to get that pain off your chest – literally. I think we empower ourselves over pain when we transmute it into gain. When we learn any lesson that might be in in and when we emerge stronger. You will – you’ve already beat the pain with your words Min. X

    • Reply Min January 19, 2016 at 9:30 pm

      You are so smart Kathy. Thank you – yes it has been most helpful to get those words out of my head and in written form. Strange isn’t it – but it has helped. xo

  • Reply Denyse January 19, 2016 at 10:47 pm

    What a post! Wow, you have so many gifts and writing this way is one. Pain is a PAIN and it’s only (Ha!) our perceptions and reactions which spark it and let it do its thing. Easy to write, harder to live with that though. Love your work! Denyse

    • Reply Min January 20, 2016 at 9:23 am

      Thanks so much Denyse – what a lovely comment. Thank you! 🙂 xo

  • Reply Deb @ inner compass designs January 19, 2016 at 10:50 pm

    Wonderful poem Min especially the last few stanzas, so strong xxx

    • Reply Min January 20, 2016 at 9:24 am

      Thanks Deb – that means a lot coming from you. 🙂 xo

  • Reply HUgzilla January 20, 2016 at 8:54 pm

    Oh man, I suffer from chronic migraines and have already spent 50% of this year in literal pain. I’m feeling you on this post.

    • Reply Min January 28, 2016 at 1:44 pm

      Chronic migraines would be awful! 50% of the year? How horrid! I hope a solution can be found for you ASAP! xo

  • Reply Raychael aka Mystery Case January 21, 2016 at 2:12 am

    How beautiful. There are so many great people dying at the moment.

    • Reply Min January 28, 2016 at 1:46 pm

      Thanks Raychael. I hope that is the end of great people dying for a while (pretty please universe)!

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