Settlement Day

April 10, 2024

Today, April 10 2024, is settlement day. It’s significant because from this day on our family home is no longer ours (all going well).

Please bare with me. I’m a very sentimental thing and I have to pay homage to my family home.

It’s been our family home since it was built by Mum and Dad back in 1963, so it’s belonged to our family for 61 years. Saying farewell to it has been one of the hardest things ever. We’ve spent just about every Christmas, Easter, Mother’s Day, and Father’s Day at that home. Not to mention all the birthdays, the getting ready there for weddings, anniversaries and many more extended family get togethers, and more. It’s filled with so many memories through our lives. Too many to list here. It’s always been there for us, well into adulthood, until now. 

The photos above of our home when newly built might not show it but it is a huge home. There were extensions done in 1975/76 to the back of the house. The house looks very different now, but the bones are the still the same. See the floorplan of how it is today below.

 

On Saturday we were over at the house clearing it of the last of its contents and cleaning. We thought we would need to go back on Sunday but as it turned out, we finished on Saturday. I wasn’t prepared for the final farewell to be that day, but that day it was. There was no point in dragging out the inevitable, plus we live a 45 minute drive away on the other side of Brisbane’s city. Before we left, my sister and I went next door to say goodbye to Harold (I won’t reveal his last name). I promised him we would, and so we did. Harold used to be an architect and he designed his home and moved in a year or two before Mum and Dad moved in. He and his wife Ellen had twin girls that were 5 years old when Mum and Dad moved in. They later had a son as well. Harold’s wife passed away many years ago at the age of 79 and he has sadly lost one of the twin girls, in recent years, to cancer too. Harold is 95 now and he gets around with his walker and spends his days listening to classical music (on so loud!!) and sorting through photos as he writes his memoir. He tells me he is up to 1998 now!  Still 26 years to write about before he gets to the present day but he is getting there! He is an amazing man and we promised to stay in touch.

There are many beautiful photographs of our family home I could share with you but I’ll share just one, and that is of my childhood bedroom (Bed 4 on the floor plan above). My bed was the one over to the left and my sister Angela slept in the one on the right. During my late teens I moved into the rumpus room downstairs (multi purpose room on floor plan). Other siblings had time living down there after I left.

I wrote a brief history of the origins of the home and the 61+ years that it has belonged to my family and left it at the house for the new owners. The photos of when the house was first built that you see above were included. I can’t share that document here as it contains personal details that I’d rather not be on the internet, so instead I wrote a quick poem. I’m no poet but hopefully the heartfelt intent is there within the words.

Our Family Home

You’ve been the keeper of all our memories

from childhood through teens till now.

We see Mum and Dad in every corner.

To farewell you, it’s hard to know how.

So we’ll take all you gave us during our lives

and lock it away safely in our hearts,

to draw on when we need it,

when sadness or longing starts.

So much laughter and such fun times

we had within your walls.

A childhood many would dream of

but alas the passage of time, it calls.

You’ve kept us safe for all these years

our haven and sanctuary.

Time to welcome new owners now

and continue your loving legacy

Locked in our hearts forever,

we thank you!

❤️

 

Ciao for now,

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22 Comments

  • Reply Sue from Women Living Well After 50 April 10, 2024 at 6:20 am

    A very emotional time for you and your family, Min. I hope all goes smoothly with the settlement. Take care and sending hugs to you all. x

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:44 am

      It sure is – thanks Sue. Appreciate the hugs – thank you! xo

  • Reply Christie Hawkes April 10, 2024 at 6:46 am

    I hope all goes well with the settlement, Min. That is a beautiful heartfelt poem. Sending love!

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:45 am

      Thank you Christie – glad you like the poem! xo

  • Reply Debbie Harris April 10, 2024 at 8:36 am

    What a lovely post Min. It’s an emotional time for sure and I hope the new owners show it the love you and your family have done over the past 61 years.What a lovely story about Harold your neighbour too. Hope all goes well and you can take heart in knowing someone else is loving your old house, your memories will always be with you. x

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:46 am

      Thanks Debbie! It’s a very surreal time – lots of emotions – doesn’t seem real. There was no way I’d have left without saying goodbye to Harold. I hope he continues to stay well and gets his memoir completed, and yes I hope the new owners love the house as we have and create more wonderful memories there. xo

  • Reply Lydia C. Lee April 10, 2024 at 8:39 am

    I think I said this before, it’s so hard to say goodbye to your family home but it helps to think of it as a gift to a new family to make memories in. As long as it’s loved. Look after yourself. Tough times. xx

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:47 am

      Very hard Lydia but yes trying to think positively and with gratitude about it. No point wallowing! Thanks so much. xo

  • Reply Denyse Whelan April 10, 2024 at 8:52 am

    A beautiful tribute filled with love & memories Min. Not all people get to farewell home as you have & it’s all the more meaningful that you have.

    Thinking of you today & into what’s next … go gently!
    Denyse x

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:48 am

      Thanks so much Denyse! xo

  • Reply sherry April 10, 2024 at 10:22 am

    Oh yes Min, it’s all so hard isn’t it? When hubby’s mum went into a home, we had to sell her house etc. So painful, so hard! I feel for you. Wishing you all the best.
    cheers
    sherry

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:49 am

      Yes Sherry, it’s very hard. Thanks so much! xo

  • Reply Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au April 10, 2024 at 10:34 am

    Hi Min – it’s a beautiful home and much larger than a lot of houses were from that era. I can imagine what a huge and sad job it was to clear it and know that it’s leaving the family. So lovely that you popped in next door to say good bye to Harold – it shows your heart.

    • Reply Min April 10, 2024 at 11:52 am

      Hi Leanne, so nice to hear from you. It’s a big house! It had some major extensions in 1975/76 to accommodate the fact that Mum and Dad now had 5 growing children! It’s been a wonderful home. It was an enormous job clearing it of 61 years of family life and a very emotional and difficult time. We have to move on though and be grateful for all we had. Thanks for the comment re Harold. He’s a lovely man. There’s no way I would’ve left without popping over to say goodbye to him. He’s been our neighbour for all of those 61 years! Thanks Leanne! xo

  • Reply Joanne Tracey April 10, 2024 at 11:55 am

    It’s a tough time for you to be sure. Many many hugs.

    • Reply Min April 12, 2024 at 9:05 am

      Appreciate the hugs Jo – thank you! xo

  • Reply Jennifer Jones April 10, 2024 at 2:39 pm

    I’m sure this is a tough time for you and your family Min. But sounds like you have created beautiful memories there that will stay will you forever. I love your poem.

    • Reply Min April 12, 2024 at 9:05 am

      Thank Jennifer – glad you like the poem! xo

  • Reply Joanne April 11, 2024 at 4:24 am

    What a lovely home and such a sweet post dedicated to it.

    • Reply Min April 12, 2024 at 9:06 am

      Thank you Joanne xo

  • Reply Leslie Susan Clingan April 22, 2024 at 7:09 am

    Have been away from the blogging world for so long. Trying to catch up this month but have missed out on so much of my friends’ lives. I know you have been in a difficult season. One I have experienced, too. My parents pretty much handled the move from our childhood home to an apartment without much help from their 3 children. Later we learned that my mother just about fell off the deep end during the move and did indeed fall apart when they moved into assisted living a few years later. I appreciate your sentimentality at bidding your home farewell. So thankful we still have our memories. Sending you love.

    • Reply Min April 23, 2024 at 3:40 pm

      Hi Leslie, I hope all is well in your world. It certainly is a difficult season in my life and I’m sorry you’ve experienced similar yourself. I’m so glad you understand my sentimentality. Already I have moments of stabs of pain when I think of our family home, so I try not to think of it as much as I can. Thanks so much for your kind comment.xo

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