This post is specifically for those of us going through difficult times. You don’t have to be super human. You don’t have to be mega productive. You don’t have to keep up social expectations, and most importantly, you don’t have to keep busy! I’m here to tell you to be kind to yourself, go easy on yourself, lighten your load, and rest when you can.
At the moment life is quite sad and stressful for me (and my family). I am trying my best to remain positive and strong, because I need to for me and for others. I don’t want to say much but if you follow me on Instagram or on the WOTM Facebook page you would have seen a couple of references to the fact my 87 year old Dad is very unwell and he, and my family, are pretty much the entire focus and priority in my life right now.
One thing to come from this I guess is my observations of myself and how I am managing to cope. It has been an eye opener. I have bad days and good days but on the whole, so far I am doing better than I thought I would (so far!). It comes back to being in tune with your mind, body and spirit and recognising what you need to do in order to keep yourself well and able to carry on. It comes back to SELF INVESTMENT AND SELF CARE. Yes, you have to look after yourself in order to be any good to others. Remember, self-care is about self-preservation, not selfishness.
For the first time ever, I’m going to disagree with a quote I’ve come across. This one by Lee Iococca:
In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.
What I particularly disagree with is the reference to ‘keep busy’. Yes try and keep positive but do not wear yourself out thinking you have to keep busy in order to not feel or in order to appear strong or in order to be worthy or to impress others. In complete contrast, I recently came across this:
… and I couldn’t agree more. We don’t need to use our busy-ness as a measure of our worthiness. During times of great stress in particular we need the opposite of busy. We need to rest and we need to restore. Ever heard the saying “you can’t pour from an empty cup”?
Everyone is different and needs different things in order to manage/cope with difficult times. I thought though that it might be helpful to share a little of what I’ve done during the last few weeks, in order to help myself:
The RESTorative yoga class with Live Sound Healing Meditation that I went to on Sunday with a girlfriend was fabulous and such perfect timing. Have you heard the sound that comes from those antique Tibetan Singing Bowls? The sounds are beautiful! It was the most wonderful, relaxing afternoon and very much needed and appreciated. For anyone interested in the details, the session was with Sandy Cuneo Yoga and the antique Tibetan Singing Bowls were played by Dan Turner of Unity of Sound.
There’s a lot more I could write about the glorification of busy and how “being busy is the disease of our time” but that is for another time and another post. This post is specifically in relation to during times of great stress. However, here’s something to ponder till I write more on this subject:
The ‘disease of being busy’ has become destructive to our health and well-being on every level. It stops you from being present with yourself and with your family and friends. It stops you from listening to yourself and looking after yourself. The ‘disease of being busy’ these days involves almost always being ‘switched on’ but not really connected. This is not how we, as humans, are designed to live.
Next time your life gets a bit stressful or a lot stressful, please don’t think you need to keep busy. Listen to yourself. Tune in to yourself. Look after yourself. REST!
Ciao for now,
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