Can you believe it’s December and nearly Christmas? No, me either. There seems to be a pattern developing in our family whereby emotionally challenging times come around this time of year. Dad passed away on 2 December 2017, 6 years ago now. Mum was hospitalised the first time in November/December 2021. She was discharged from hospital just a week prior to Christmas that year. And here we are again November/December 2023 – a fall out of bed, hospitilisation, Covid, the need to move Mum to residential aged care, and more. There’s been no time to prepare for Christmas. All of our focus and energy has been on looking after Mum, and rightly so.
Anyway, I’ve not had time to do the next NZ Trip travel post so I thought I’d bring forward my December Taking Stock post for this week. It’ll be like therapy for me. There’s no telling what might come out so brace yourselves and let’s go!
Getting: very little sleep for quite a while now. My mind won’t shut down. What’s happening in our family right now is life changing.
Cooking: is not something I’ve been feeling like doing much of lately so I’ve been trying to keep it as simple as possible.
Sipping: on a lot of water. I’ve been feeling dehydrated a lot. Maybe that’s a side effect of stress and worry?
Reading: all the info on the new aged care facility where Mum is – wifi password, lift access, doctor visits, how the TV works, the petty cash (like) system, meal times, and much more!
Thinking: too much about everything and anything that my brain won’t relax and settle for sleep, art or anything much.
Remembering: and having lots of flashbacks of Mum when she was well and energetic and her real self.
Looking: at Residential Aged Care facilities hoping to find one that would feel right for Mum. Thankfully we did find one and a vacancy came up there with a beautiful room for her. I think Dad was helping us out there. Thanks Dad!
Listening: to The Tennis Player washing dishes as I sit here typing this. The exhaustion I feel is real. Thankfully the family are picking up the slack to help me out.
Wishing: Mum’s current health concerns (not going to go into details) would resolve so she can enjoy her new environment and its activities and enjoy visitors too!
Enjoying: A weekend at home. It’s Sunday as I type this. I went nowhere Saturday and I’m going nowhere today. I need some quiet time at home very badly.
Appreciating: The nurses and doctors and all staff at the new aged care facility where Mum is that can now help carry the load of caring for Mum. It’s a rollercoaster of a ride.
Wanting: Mum to embrace the change and new chapter and be happy and content.
Eating: a complimentary welcome lunch and dessert on the balcony of Mum’s new home was very enjoyable. We were joined by some Kookaburra’s!
Finishing: the phase of life where my sister and I rotate each week caring for Mum in her own home has brought with it a mixture of feelings – relief, guilt for feeling relief, sadness, grief.
Liking: very much that I managed to get to my Art group’s final get together for 2023 – our Christmas lunch!
Loving: the new aged care facility we found for Mum. It’s not only aesthetically beautiful but it’s conveniently located mid-way between myself and all my siblings and the staff are all very kind, caring and attentive. Here’s one of the beautiful Christmas trees Mum gets to enjoy.
Buying: a small orchid for the little table on the balcony of Mum’s room as a ‘housewarming’ gift.
Watching: cheesy Christmas movies on Netflix over the weekend in a bid to chillax a bit and get into the Christmas spirit – Catering Christmas, Genie, and A Brush with Christmas.
Hoping: for Mum to be well and for a happier and less stressful 2024.
Wearing: Daggy comfy clothes at home over the weekend all in the name of relaxing!
Walking: apart from incidental walking (quite a bit when Mum was in hospital – from where I parked to the hospital) there certainly hasn’t been any time for purposeful walking but that’s ok!
Following: my gut feelings with all the decisions that have had to be made lately. My gut is usually right.
Noticing: I’m experiencing grief and there’s been lots of grief for some time now.
Saving: money in the Black Friday sales. I bought some new linen for the bed – sheet set was 30% off and the quilt cover set was a massive 70% off! I decided this will be this years Christmas gift for The Tennis Player and myself.
Bookmarking: nothing – no time!
Feeling: tired way too much lately but I feel like we are slowly reaching a place where we can relax a bit more and worry quite a bit less. Fingers crossed!
Hearing: a mower going next door as I type this.
As you can see, my life has all revolved around Mum, caring for Mum, and keeping her safe. I do this because she deserves all the love and care in the world and I wouldn’t have it any other way. If you’re not familiar with what has been going on with Mum then THIS post should explain and then THIS one on Facebook might update a little further.
If you want to take stock too you can visit Pip, the creator of the Taking Stock concept at Meet Me at Mikes for the prompts (scroll to the bottom of the post). This is my last Taking Stock post for 2023! The next one will be the first quarterly Taking Stock post for 2024 which will be sometime in March 2024.
Before you go – please have a read of the NOTE below my signature with regards to a little #WWWhimsy break over the Christmas/New Year period.
Ciao for now,
NOTE FROM MIN: Advance notice that the last #WWWhimsy Linkup for 2023 will be on Wednesday 20 December and the first #WWWhimsy Linkup for 2024 will be on Wednesday 17 January. That gives us all a 4 week break. I believe in Self Care and I think that some digital detox time over the Christmas/New Year period is a good idea. Of course you’re most welcome to keep on blogging between those dates but the linkup will be closed for that 4 week period. Christmas is getting so close! Eeek!