This post is part of the Gorgeous 50’s series inspired by a book given to me by one of my sisters on my 50th birthday – ‘Grown up and Gorgeous in your 50’s’ by Pamela Robson. I will be sharing some of Pamela’s words and my own thoughts along the way. To see all posts published as part of this series, go here.
MDAL: It’s the Mutton Dressed as Lamb debate. How often have you asked when trying something on: ‘But do I look like mutton dressed as lamb?’ By the time they’ve hit 50, many women have given up the battle and retreated into fashion frumpiness. But are your old faithfuls really working for you? Or do they just serve to date you, like rings on a tree, back to the decade from which they sprang?
Pamela goes on to say:
At the very heart of the MDAL debate is the question of how much to reveal. If you are the kind of girl who harbours an inner lap dancer – don’t let her out. Or at least indulge your fantasies in the privacy of your own home. There are a couple of rules:
- Only reveal one bit of flesh at a time. Decide which bits of you look good and make the most of them. If you have a lovely long neck and good shoulders – go strapless. If you have great breasts show a little cleavage. But you should wear neither of these with a short skirt or severely split skirt. If you have great legs ear a short skirt and follow-me-home stiletto heels – but cover up the rest. There is a fine line between flirty and tarty.
- Never wear too tight with too tight – if your skirt or pants are tight, wear a flowing top. If you are wearing a figure-hugging top, wear a more floaty skirt or wide-leg trousers.
Deal-breakers: bare bits & tight bits
Uh-oh. Are you …
Wearing the same clothes as your partner?
Probably the most extreme reaction to the Mutton Dressed as Lamb debate is the wife-dressed-as-husband response. You know if this is you: polo shirts and khaki shorts in the summer; jeans and baggy jumpers in the winter. If this is your wardrobe you probably look like you’re about to set off on a campervan holiday. You need expert help.
Dressing like your mother?
If you find yourself wandering into any of those shops that specialise in those mother-of-the-bride pastel, synthetic frocks and two pieces, run for your life. This is no way for a 50-year-old to behave. They’ll make you look huge. They’ll make you look 80. Again, expert help is needed.
- Hmmm well I do dress differently to when I was a teen or in my 20’s for sure! I might dress a little differently to when I was in my 30’s too but much of the reason for that could be put down to changes in fashion and changes to my shape! I’m afraid I don’t totally agree with Pamela on everything for this one.
- I do agree that some women give up on fashion and opt for comfort to the degree of sometimes looking a little frumpy. You can be both fashionable and comfortable!
- I don’t agree with the list of six fashion no-no’s Pamela has listed to avoid MDAL. Yes, most definitely for some people. Not necessarily a no-no for others. It depends on the body shape and the personality of the person. If you have good legs, even in your 50’s you might be able to pull off a short skirt or hot pants. If you have good arms, shoulders and boobs you may look mighty fine in a boob tube. What’s wrong with wearing a tie-dyed t-shirt and ripped jeans are all the rage lately so if that’s your thing and it looks ok on you why not? And if you want to wear an ankle bracelet – I say go for it! I think it’s all a matter of understanding what does you justice and what doesn’t. It’s also about wearing what makes you feel happy and confident! Unfortunately there are some women who may end up looking like MDAL because they don’t understand what is flattering for them and what is not. But if they feel good and are happy, does it really matter? Isn’t the most important thing ourselves? Feeling confident and happy! Who cares what other’s think!
- I do tend to agree with Pamela’s points on only revealing one area of flesh at a time. Also to reveal what is your good point and cover the rest. Best to keep it classy!
- I do agree to not wear tight with tight … or flowy with flowy for that matter. Flowy pants with a tight fitted top or tight/fitted pants and a flowy top. Works a treat.
- Not sure what to say about the women who are apparently dressing like their husbands! Really? There are women out there that do this?
- As for dressing like your mother … I know what Pamela means but in my case that wouldn’t be a bad thing. My mother dresses very well and in clothes that I like!
Do you worry about MDAL? What are your thoughts on Pamela’s advice? I’d love to hear!
Ciao for now,
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